Coaching Skills

How to Coach Someone Through Extreme Stress

Let’s Talk About Stress

When it comes to managing stress, ITN founder Cynthia Garcia lives by the mantra “first you, then your client.”

As a coach, it’s important to speak to your clients from a place of deep understanding and experience.

Being authentic and sharing how you’ve been able to cope with life’s stressors can help you develop a deeper connection and level of trust with your clients.

But, being a coach (and a human being in general) can be stressful.

On today’s episode, Cynthia is sharing her top tips for how to thrive as a coach and help clients navigate times of extreme stress. 

One of the first steps in this process is to get really clear about what your role is as a coach.

Remember that you’re there to hold space, offer support, ask deeper questions, and keep your clients accountable for the action plans that you create together.

There’s no magical, one-size-fits all solution to stress management. Cynthia breaks down methods to get to the root cause of negative feelings, and offers suggestions for how to approach emotional, spiritual and physical solutions with your clients.

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  • The difference between good stress and bad stress (and why it matters for our health)
  • The surprising statistics about stress levels within different generations
  • Common root causes that tend to contribute to a person’s stress levels 
  • Examples of how to approach conversations about stress with your clients 
  • Cynthia’s ‘I Wonder’ game that helps her evaluate thought patterns 
  • Self care tools and techniques to share with clients

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[00:00:00] Cynthia Garcia: Have some compassion, be gentle with yourself. Stop the judgment Lord, have mercy. Stop the judgment. I mean, do you really need that in your life? On top of everything else that’s going on? Care for yourself.

Welcome back to the transformation, nutrition coaching podcast with me, Cynthia Garcia. I am so excited to be with you today. This is the podcast that is redefining nutrition as anything that beats you physically, mentally and spiritually. So you can focus on being a successful, impactful coach. Now this episode, I’m recording it early morning and the sun is.

Starting to peek through the windows in my studio. And as I’m looking out, I see these beautiful green rolling Hills, which is not always the case here in Los Angeles, because we’ve been in a drought for so many years. It gets hot, but this time of the year is just perfect. Now what’s interesting is this home, which I just moved into a few months ago and I got to tell you, I’m like, So, so so much, but prior to me, moving in, there was a home on this land that unfortunately burned in the Woolsey fires that we had a few years back.

And so it’s just been rebuilt, but what’s interesting is. Like everything around this location burned, it’s even driving up my driveway. I see these trees and they’re just blackened and broken and it hurts my heart because I love the city and this area so much. And I hate seeing the things that are planning.

Dealing with, but at the same time, you know, when there are these fires, essentially what’s left over, becomes fertilizer for new growth for new land. And this kind of ties into the episode today and what I want to talk to you about, which is how you can really thrive and coach your clients to do the same during times of extreme.

Stress. So let’s dive right in to that. Shall we? I think I loosely tied that in, maybe I haven’t had enough coffee this morning, but that’s just what came through for me is what is left when things burn down and how you really can create new growth, new opportunities and flourish. So. Here’s the thing about stress.

We all get stressed out sometimes. I mean, listen, I love to pride myself on a good meditation routine and self care and all of the things we’re supposed to do, but I get stressed out too. You know, whether it’s a big project deadline or there’s just a lot on my plate or I’m feeling overwhelmed, it’s a common experience and I’m sure there are times.

When you feel really stressed out too. And I want to be clear, you know, not all stress is bad. There’s something called use stress, which is the type of stress that you feel when you get excited or you’re happy. Your pulse quickens, you might get sweaty palms, but there’s no threat. There’s no fear. I mean, think about this when.

You get a new job or you get a new client or you win at something you’re doing, or maybe you go on a first date and it’s going really well. Good stress is short term and it inspires you. It motivates you. It focuses your energy and can even enhance your performance. You know, I know there’ve been times in my life.

This happens all the time where I’ll have a long day and I’m just exhausted. But then. I’ll hear one of our students or graduates having success with a client or they just signed a deal or they’ve appeared in the media, or I get an opportunity and I just, that tiredness goes away and I’m so excited and that is a good type of stress.

But then. There’s not so good stress when that’s what we’re going to talk about today. Now this also might happen on a first date, depending on how that date is going, but we know we’ve all faced deadlines. We’ve all come up against maybe financial situations that we weren’t quite prepared for. There is an illness in our family.

These. Happen, right. This is life and this type of stress can really wear you out. It can leave you jittery. It’s very harmful to your health. It can lead to increased anxiety, confusion, poor concentration, and even physical results as well. So physical symptoms like headaches, insomnia, weight gain, and I’ve battled for many, many years.

Bad stress. So to speak until I was able to finally come up with healthy solutions and because I didn’t have any tools back then, right? Like I, I didn’t know, just bad things happened and you kind of freaked out and reacted and then somehow some way they got resolved and you kind of moved on about your life, but there are tools.

And I want to give you those today because I’m telling you they can make all the difference.

This week, we are spotlighting Darcel Osei, a recent graduate of our certified transformational nutrition coach program here at ITN to begin, let’s hear a little bit about Duracell’s background and the why behind her decision to become a certified coach.

Well, I was going to do a masters in dance science because I’ve always kind of, I’ve always been interested in the science side of things as well. I’m currently a sports massage therapist. So when I went to uni, I did kinesiology major alongside dance. So when I graduated, it was making the decision whether I wanted to be a physiotherapist.

So whether I wanted to dance and obviously I chose dance. So I thought, okay, let’s get back to the science side of things. So I was going to do my masters, not really knowing what I was going to do with it. It was one of those I was going to do my master’s because I felt like I should do my master’s.

Cause that’s the thing that people do. But a friend of mine, who’s also an ITN grad, put me onto a podcast called the model health. The guy who does the podcast is action, ITN grad as well. And it was, I remember that shift and I remember the first episode I listened to, I was running in the park and it just reminded me how much control we have over our own health and just the little things that we can do to just boost our health and wellbeing.

And then I got to the episode in the podcast where he talked about ITN and he was encouraging people to kind of go down that route to, you know, be a vessel of, you know, sharing this information as well. This is what I have to do. I 100% need to do this. And I mean, it didn’t even take a lot of thinking or going back and forth.

It was just like, this is what I have to do.

I want you to understand just how big of an issue stress is in our world right now. And you might think you don’t have to say another word, Cynthia. I get it. I get the stress. Like I’ve lived in this world for the past few years. I’ve seen what’s gone down, but let me just share with you. So. Older Americans might be able to embrace this feeling of, well, this too shall pass.

And I’ll tell you the truth as I get older, I will say that things aren’t quite as intense for me, not just because of the tools that I have to handle them now, although that is part of it, but because. I just have lived a little more, I have a little bit more experience in life. I understand what a real emergency is versus one that just feels like the world is ending.

And when I was younger, you know, the world would end quite often. And as I get older, I realize, ah, let’s just life. Right. But. You know, our younger generations are facing different challenges these days. So gen Z, which are ages 18 to 23, they’re really at a pivotal moment in their lives. And they are experiencing adulthood at a time when the future looks very uncertain.

You know, we’ve all been at that age. Or many of us have been at that age where we’re adults. You know, things are shifting for us. We’re out of school or we’re just out of college and were thinking, whoa, this is really what the world has in store for me. But in this day in time, things are even more uncertain as we look around, not just in America, but the globe, you know, there’s.

So much that we face on an everyday basis. And according to the American psychological association, gen Z adults reported the highest stress level during a 2020 study on average at 6.1 out of 10.4 during a month. Period. All right. So I mean, that’s pretty high. It’s excited 10 and this is significantly higher than all other generations.

For example, millennials age 24 to 41 came in at a route 5.6 for gen X, which range in age from 42 to 55 came in at 5.2 boomers, their stress levels. They rated it at about 4.0, that’s aged 56 to 74. And then adults older than 75 came in at about three. Three. So you can see the levels of stress that gen Z is really experiencing now for comparison, the reported stress level on average, across all adults is five, 5.0, and this is pretty much on par with the level that was reported in 2019, which was 4.9 in 2018, which was also 4.9.

But despite this consistent. Stress levels among gen Z. Adults have been increasing over the past two years in 2018, where the average was 4.9. For most adults. They came in at 5.6 in 2019. They came in at 5.8 and again, across the board, it was on average 4.9 for those other generations. And then 2020 was the highest recorded.

6.1. So there’s a lot going on in the world today. And whether you’re a coach who has clients experiencing this, or you’re just feeling it personally, and you want more information on how to handle your stress, you know, maybe you just don’t know a good. Uh, way out, maybe you feel these things coming up for you, you know that, you know, your stomach gets tight, your, your palms are sweating.

Your heart is racing, and this happens to you on a regular basis and it doesn’t really go away. How do you deal with that? I want to share some tips on how you can do that today. All right. Let’s check back in with their cell to hear her talk about finding her ideal client and what her life has looked like since she graduated from ITN.

[00:11:26] Darcel Osei: I realized that my ideal client is kind of not to sound narcissistic, but me, I want to really serve high achieving women who are trying to achieve success in their life and kind of underlying. With getting their hormone health and balance as well. And it kind of speaks to, I guess, my own journey going through lockdown, being a mom of a little one, I could tell that just my hormones were all over the place.

I mean, they were really just running away with me. And then I was trying to get through this cost to create my own business. So those were the two things I needed. I was like, okay, I need to get my homelands and the controls so that I can feel a little bit balanced and then be able to kind of create the success in this business that I want.

And I’m going to be really honest and vulnerable because this might actually be helpful to the graduates as well, as excited as I was to do the cost and come out of it and get ready to coach I graduated and all of a sudden this side, Incredible imposter syndrome and fare of putting myself out there kind of took hold of me.

And I thought, okay, I need to build my confidence as a coach. How can I do that? But take a little bit of the pressure off of it. So what I did was I put out a post inviting five people to have two free coaching sessions with me. So I thought this way I can. Create some impact in their lives while gaining some coaching experience.

So I’m currently in the process of doing that. And I’m quite, I’m really enjoying that because it’s just such a beautiful feeling at the end of every coaching session to feel like, you know, they’ve had just one really good takeaway or they have something new that, you know, they can look forward to that they hadn’t really thought was possible before.

[00:13:22] Cynthia Garcia: So, first of all, the biggest thing that you can start to do is to find the root cause of your stress. And as a coach, let’s just get clear on what your role is as a coach. As a coach, you support your clients. You do not show up and have all the answers. It is not your job to tell someone else how to solve all of the problems in their own life.

That’s their job, right? You don’t know, I don’t know how to solve your problems, but you do. And as a coach, my job. To hold space for you to offer support, to ask deeper questions and then holds you accountable for things that you say you’re going to do to solve those issues in your life. So coaches are not here to give quick fixes, and if that’s what your coach is doing, then, you know, we probably need to look for a new coach, but when it comes to stress specifically, What we’re trying to do as coaches is help the clients understand where the root cause is of their stress.

We’re not just there to fix symptoms, right. Or to help them find solutions to their symptoms. We looking for that root cause. And we find it through having a series of conversations where the coach will ask questions to help the clients gain a deeper understanding of what it is that they’re really going on.

Like what’s going on beneath the surface. And we can often reflect back things to our clients that they may not have considered before. When we show up in their lives as coaches and we are unbiased and we’re unconnected to other areas of the client’s life, and we can talk about their stress in a safe environment without judging them.

Then magic really does start to happen. And we start to understand, again, the root cause or what’s really going on in our client’s lives. Your friends can’t do this for you. Your family can’t do this for you because they know you. Right. They know what you’re going through. They already have their preconceived notions.

They already have their own thoughts formed about who you are and the things that have led to this. Whereas a coach doesn’t have any of those things. So getting to the root cause let’s get back to that. There are a few common root causes that. Tend to contribute to a person’s stress level. The first one is poor time management in this world that we live in today.

We always feel like we don’t have enough time. Right. We’re so busy. I know I’ll talk to people all the time and I’ll say, how are you? Oh my gosh, I’m so busy. Well, that’s not really an answer, but okay. We tend to think that again, we just don’t have time to do the things that we want to do. That’s not true by the way we always do.

Time. It’s just that you’re not making something a priority. So just a different way to reframe that for you, but time or this feeling of not having enough time can influence our stress levels in a very negative way. And so it’s important to learn how to prioritize and manage your time when you do feel overwhelmed.

An example of understanding this as the root cause of a client’s stress might be where they come in and they say, gosh, I’m so stressed out. I’ve got all these looming deadlines I feel behind. I don’t feel like I’m productive enough at work. I’m afraid of losing my job. And they think that the root cause of their stress is their job.

And it definitely sounds like that could be the reason. Sure. But if you push past that surface level of the job being what stressful, you might find that it’s not their job, but rather understanding how to manage their time effectively. That’s really causing the stress. And you might explain it to your client this way.

You might say, look, Mary, you know, if you had a different job, would your level of stress be different? Probably not is the answer because even if they replace that job, they could still have looming deadlines. They could still feel unproductive and they could still be afraid of losing that job too. So if the underlying cause here was actually time management and you helped your client to see that and to get better with time management, then that would alleviate the stress, right?

They wouldn’t have to worry about the deadlines or filling in productive or worry about losing their job and having to find another one. Do you see the difference? Now that’s one example, the underlying root cause of that stress at work, it might also be that they just don’t feel like they’re good enough that they are an imposter, that they’re not right for this job anyway.

And that’s causing them stress. Right. So really get to the underlying cause of what’s going on with your client when it comes to. There stress. Okay. So that’s one example, but time, time management is one of the number one causes of feeling stressed. Another one is not having enough self care, not caring for yourself, not having a good personal relationship with yourself, which we refer to as one form of spirituality here at.

And when we lack that connection with ourself, we tend to feel stressed out and anxious. Right. We tend to feel out of control. Like things are just happening too, as however, when we have self care and we really sit down with ourself and we start to say, you know, Hey, what’s going on? You know, talk to me, I do this all the time, by the way, I’ll say, gosh, look at you.

You know, it’s okay. You’re, you’re feeling. Yeah, that’s heavy, man. That’s heavy. That feels, it feels intense. Doesn’t it? Yeah. I just, I just tune into myself and I’ll say, what is really going on here? What is it that because of this, I have this game that I play. You may have heard me talk about it before called the, I wonder game.

I wonder where this is all coming from. Well, I just have a lot going on and I just feel like I’m not going to get it done. Hmm. I wonder why that’s so important to you. Well, you know, I, I said I do this keeping my word is important. Yeah. I wonder why I wonder why that’s so important to you. Well, if I don’t keep my word, people won’t trust me in the future.

It’s really important that people trust me. All right. Well, I wonder, I wonder why, I wonder why it’s so important that, that people trust you. Well, I know how important trust is in relationships, you know, or there have been many times where trust has been broken with me, and I know how that feels and I don’t ever want.

Anyone that I’m in relationship with, whether that’s work relationship, a personal relationship friendship to not trust me, because if that’s true, then there’s no relationship. And I’ve just found the root cause of what’s going. Right. So play the, I wonder game with yourself. Dig deeper, have this personal relationship with yourself.

Talk to yourself and be open. You might say, well, Cynthia, it sounds like you’re a little delusional. Well, we all are. Let’s tell the truth, right? We all go through life, making up stories about the things that happened to us and usually. True or we make up stories about the worst thing that could happen.

And typically it never Dez. So we’re all a bit delusional. So why not sit down at a table and have a cup of coffee with yourself and find out what’s really going on? What are the stories that you’re telling yourself? And have some compassion, be gentle with yourself. Stop the judgment Lord, have mercy.

Stop the judgment. I mean, do you really need that in your life? On top of everything else? That’s going on? Care for yourself. Gently coaching can be a tremendous pathway to success. We asked ourselves to share some of her biggest moments of success since starting her coaching journey. So let’s tune in and see what she said.

[00:21:28] Darcel Osei: I think something that’s made me really proud and it might, it might seem like a small thing, but I walked away kind of feeling like, oh, this is, this is what you can do for people. I was speaking to someone who is somebody that took me up on those free sessions and, you know, she had been made redundant and she said that she just had this feeling that she was useless.

And we just, I kind of talked through and got her. Tell me what her ID life would look like, and it was completely different to what she’d been doing. And suddenly I felt like I, at some point she did say that it was impossible because of different areas and different obstacles, which we then talked about and how she could overcome them.

And I felt like towards the end of the session, she was seeing the possibility of that. And she was actually going to take some action steps to move to what’s that, and that felt really amazing to help her see something that she saw was impossible. I feel like that’s one of my big successes so far.

[00:22:34] Cynthia Garcia: Now, when we talk about self care, I also want to be really clear. This doesn’t mean like packing up your bags and going to a five-star resort in Bali. Although it could, if you want, listen to you, I’m not judging. Do whatever works for you. But it could be as simple as taking the afternoon off to sit outside and feel the sunshine on your face and the wind at your back.

You know, I mentioned this amazing view that I have in this new home, and I’m telling you on days where I feel that. And I feel like I’m a little out of control. I’ll check in and I’ll say, okay, you know, time for you to focus on you. If you’re like me, you tend to focus on other people on other things.

Right. And I’ll just say, it’s time for you to focus on you now and I’ll go outside and I’ll just sit and I’ll just be, and I’ll put the phone down and I’ll. B, sometimes things come up and I think about things and sometimes I come up with solutions and sometimes I don’t, but this for me is a beautiful form of self care.

It’s just reconnecting with nature. You might read a book, you might take a hot bath with some essential oils. You might meditate. You might go on a walk. You might call a friend. I have one of my closest dearest friends who I just love with all of my heart. And when I need a little pick me up, I will voice text her, or I will vexed her as we call it.

Cause we’re cool like that. Um, but whatever works for you do that. Right? Do that. I find out what it is is that’s at the root cause of your stress, whether it’s not enough self care or it’s not feeling like you’re good enough, or it’s just managing your time in a way that’s not serving you. Maybe your priorities are out of alignment.

Find what’s really going on, sit down and have that conversation with. Right. And then go from there. Now I will mention one last thing here. That’s a common root cause of stress, the negative type of stress, the stress that hurts our hearts and our bodies. And that is your diet. Just a physical look, right?

Because here at ITN, we’re all about the body being physical, the mind and the spirit. So I’ve talked a little bit about the mental aspect, not having time, not feeling like you’re good enough, the spiritual aspect, not really connecting with yourself and having self care. But we can’t overlook the physical aspect as well.

So things like too much sugar and caffeine. Let’s just focus on those two. I say that as I’m sitting here drinking a cup of coffee, so, oh, I love being human sometimes. So too much caffeine though, is what we’re talking about here. Right. And too much sugar. I’m not saying if you never consume sugar, caffeine, you’ll never be stressed again.

That would be ridiculous. But I am saying that too much sugar and too much caffeine can lead to physical symptoms that trigger stress and anxiety or mimic them. So. Too much caffeine, you might feel heart palpitations. You might not sleep well. You might not be able to concentrate or focus, right. It might be in a sugar coma, so to speak.

So if you or your client is feeling very stressed or anxious, but everything else in their life is good mentally and spiritually. Look at these physical signs and see what’s going on and start with caffeine and shit. Right. And then allow your client to do the, I wonder game as well. Allow them to play, play along with them.

You know, you can be the coach and just say, I wonder why I wonder what’s going on. Get to the root cause of what’s really going on. Even if they say, oh, I’m just drinking too much coffee. You’re right. That’s it. I’ll cut it out. Okay. But why are you drinking so much coffee? Well, what’s what’s going on here, right?

Like, let’s talk about that. What is that? And they might come up with a whole slew of different answers. And one of those might be the root cause, but you see what I’m getting at, right. Getting to the root cause is really the key as a coach and helping your client to overcome these things for good. We’re not trying to band-aid our clients, we’re trying to help them solve real issues in their life by getting to the root cause.

All right. So. Finally, after you have identified where your client’s stress is coming from now, you want to help them, right? You want to help support them in regulating those stress levels. So let me just say, there is no one size fits all approach. I don’t have a little tool that you can put in your magic coaching bag and pull out and wave it around when your client comes in with.

Just like everyone’s root cause of stress is different. Everyone’s solution for that root cause is different. And that’s where you as a coach, help them to come up with a step-by-step plan on what they can do to negate those root causes or to improve those root causes. So, If they are struggling with time management, you can work with them to help them set clear boundaries, right.

Help them to say no, help them to set priorities. Now, remember I’m saying you’re helping them do these things, so you’re not going to set their priorities for them. How could you, you’re not going to set boundaries for them. How could you. But you will support them and coming up with their own solutions through asking them great questions, being a support for them and talking about what’s worked for them in the past and why it’s worked or what hasn’t worked and why it hasn’t this way.

You’re empowering them to come up with their own solution. Okay. So I kind of, I compare this sometimes to following a diet. So you may know I was in weight loss and that was my specialty for many, many years or what a great bestselling book on it helped. A lot of people did a lot of great work that I’m very, very proud of.

And so sometimes in the media, people will say to me, they’ll push back a little bit and they’ll say, yeah, but diets don’t work. Why do you think diets don’t work? Now that’s a loaded question. Right? And I often think that it’s not that diets don’t work. There are a lot of great diets out there. There are a lot of not so great diets as well.

Diet just meaning the way you eat and you know what you’re consuming, right? Like it could be a social media diet. I’m not talking about just like weight loss diets in particular. But even there, there even are some diets that can help you shed excess weight. If that is your goal may not be. And that’s fine too.

But here’s the thing with diets. One thing that I have found consistently over the years, whether it is a diet or a habit that you’re trying to break or something else, when we placed restrictions on adults, they don’t work. They don’t work. We like to be in control of our own lives. We do, it helps us to feel safe.

Now when people take that control away from us and they say, oh, you can’t eat that food. You can’t do that. Right. You have to do this thing instead. We don’t like that very much. We don’t. And so we’ll go along with it for about eight and a half days, three and a half for some of us, and then we’re done and we’ll push back and we’ll eat all the unhealthy foods and we’ll do all the unhealthy habits.

We’ll over-drink we’ll gamble. We’ll do all the things we get into unhealthy relationships, because we don’t like being controlled. Right. And we’ll say things like I deserve this. Right. And that’s our way of saying, I want my control back. I want my power back. That’s been taken away. Now I know that deciding to become a nutrition coach can feel like a big decision, probably because, well, it is.

So let’s listen in for the advice that Darcell shares for anyone who may be on the fence about taking that next step.

[00:30:42] Darcel Osei: I think if you’re on the fence about ITN, the fact that you’re even considering it means that you want to serve and have impact in people’s lives. And I think if you really want to have a huge impact in the lives of. Then 100% do it because I think it just really equips you in every way to really help just individuals from a very holistic angle, just the mental, the physical, the spiritual.

So if you really want to have powerful impact in the lives of others, 100% enrolled with ITN and about the fare of putting yourself out there. I think what I’ve learned. Again, I mean, a lot of what I learned in the course has helped me so much along the way is that fair is not going anywhere and we can actually use it to our advantage.

And if we just take a moment to figure out what that fare is telling you, then eventually you get to the point where you can just feel the fear and do it anyways. And if you just really think about what’s the worst that could happen. If you put yourself out there, it’s actually not that bad. So you better off do.

[00:31:53] Cynthia Garcia: So, if you can get your clients on board or whether when you get your clients on board in creating their own solutions, instead of you telling them what to do, you, not that you could anyway, cause again, how are you to know how to fix their life, but you give them their power. You allow them to choose.

It’s not that they can’t have the foods they’re just choosing not to. It’s not that they can’t be in the unhealthy relationship. It’s just that they’re choosing not to. Do you see the difference here? So you work with your clients on creating what works for them and they get to decide. They get to decide.

So again, what time management are they afraid of saying no? So they just keep taking on more work and what can they do instead? Are they afraid of failure? So they keep procrastinating because it’s just not perfect enough. Do they not understand how to effectively create a schedule for themselves? Do they not understand the difference between urgent and important?

Could they delegate tasks to other people? You see where I’m going with this? If they’re struggling with something like self care, Can you help them find five to 10 minutes a day where they can practice a meditation technique or sit outside and be in nature, or just make a nice cup of tea and beat. Can you provide them with a journal prompt or help them to create one each week to nourish their mental nutrition?

Can you help them find an affirmation or words of peace to help them when they tend to be stressed out something again, that resonates with them? Can you help them find ways to expand their morning routine, to fit in time, to care for themselves and their needs. Again, it might just be 10 minutes of silence in the morning before the kids get up and start their shenanigans, who knows, but work with your client because they will know.

Look, I know you might be a coach and you’re an expert. I’m a coach. I’m an expert on a lot of things, but you are the expert on you and I am the expert on me and your client is the expert on them. Right? Don’t forget. Let’s say they’re struggling with these physical things. They, you know, their, their diet, uh, specifically caffeine and sugar.

Can you help them to identify healthy alternatives to replace caffeine and sugar? Right? So if they tend to go for that third cup of coffee during their afternoon slump, maybe you could ask them about some other healthy snacks that are great for brain health and focus. Right. Maybe you could share, what’s worked for your other clients.

You’re not telling them what to do. You’re just offering up suggestions. If they get stuck and they need. Get to the root cause. Can you help them understand why they’re consuming so much caffeine? Why they’re consuming so much sugar? Are they doing it intentionally? Are they doing it because they’re bored?

Are they doing it to feel a different voice? Something that they want, but they don’t currently have. I had a client one time who drank coffee all day long, all day long. And when we got to the root cause of it, she wasn’t craving caffeine or coffee or the energy that it gave her. She was craving. And love.

You see the love of her life had passed away a year before, and she didn’t quite know how to cope with that. She missed that warmth in her heart and her body. And so she drank coffee, this warming substance so that she could feel that. So, what is really going on with your client? This is how you support them when they come to you, feeling extreme stress, and these things are also the way you support yourself.

I have this saying that I teach at both of my coaching schools at the Institute of transformational nutrition and at the modern life coach school. And I always say, first, you then your client first, you then your class. When you speak with your clients from a place of deep understanding, because you’ve experienced it because you’ve dealt with it because you found your own ways of coping and come through.

On the other side, it is such a deeper level of connection of trust of understanding. And you will build such strong coaching relationships with your clients. When you do that, they’ll get. Results. You’ll take on more clients because they’ll refer you to their family and friends because you’ve had such a great impact in their lives, but only if you have that deep level of trust and understanding, and a great way to do that is for you to go from.

You walk the path first. So think about ways that you can start to deal with your own stress. Think about some ways that you can start to get to the root cause of what’s really stressing you out and then practice these things with your clients. All right.

Okay. Let’s check in with our cell one last time to get her take on what nutrition coaches can provide for people and why coaching is so important, especially in this day and age that we live in. Um,

[00:37:08] Darcel Osei: what I would say is I truly believe that what we do as coaches is really important. And I mean, now more than ever, it’s so critical because people are. You know, afraid and people are anxious and, you know, people are trying to get on with their lives and not really sure where to start. People are trying to create things for themselves.

People are trying to create good health for themselves and they don’t know where to start. And I think what we do is so critical because we can just, you know, offer people information and help to educate them on all of this incredible new research and even just get them. To see things from a different perspective and see the possibilities from themselves and actually reach those possibilities and beyond.

So I think that what we do is really critical and really important. And that’s the other thing, you know, every time I start to feel the fare, I remember what I actually have to offer and how helpful that could be to someone. So I’m going to let that be my driving force and not the fair.

[00:38:29] Cynthia Garcia: So, if you want to know more about becoming a coach, whether you’re already a coach or you think, no, I just want more fulfillment. I want to show up. I want to help people. I want my life to mean something. I want to make money doing something that I love. Well, now is a great time to be a student at ITN. We are just launched our brand new limited time success series, where we are really committed to your success.

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Go ahead and head over to transformational 0 3 1. Thank you so much for joining me today and I’ll see you next week for a brand new episode.



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